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SELF-SOVEREIGNTY CONSENT FORM 


During this game and in regard to what arises during the game, I consent to SELF-SOVEREIGNTY.

Self-sovereignty is defined as the willingness to manage and regulate our own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, regardless of other’s actions or opinions. This also means we do not need to caretake, manipulate, or try to manage other players' thoughts and emotional states. Ultimately, being self sovereign allows us to take ownership of our feelings and experiences, and to navigate life in a more empowered and authentic way.

Abiding in self-sovereignty allows us to honor that same autonomy in others. This mature way of relating offers the capacity to move towards truth, tension, and insecurities and leverage them for individual and relational liberation.

Examples of not being self-sovereign:
  • “I don’t want you to think or feel this way”
  • “It’s your fault that I feel the way I do.”
  • “I need you to understand that I do not resonate with your judgment.”
  • “You're attacking me and I’m offended.”
  • “You are the patriarchy. I am being oppressed.”
  • “Fuck you” or “Fuck me”
  • “You have no idea what you’re talking about. You don’t even know me.”
  • “I’m worried you might misunderstand me, take offense or it might negatively impact our connection so I want to explain and contextualize my judgment.”

Note: Defensiveness is the act of building a story or persona over the resistance to feeling. Here are some indicators of defensiveness (it can be subtle!):
  • “I used to have this issue, but I don’t anymore.”
  • “I’m working really hard on this.”
  • “What you’re not understanding or seeing is _______.”
  • “I realize I don’t care if I am ________.” 
  • “That’s not true.”

Examples of being self-sovereign:
  • “I felt impacted when you gave me that judgment, noticed anger arising, and I am excited to lean into my feelings and expand my self-awareness.”
  • “I feel grateful to know that others have this judgment of me, because it gives me a new understanding and more curiosity around the way I react to this situation.”
  • “Wow, I feel exposed. I am going to sit with this before responding. Thank you for activating this.”
  • “I notice I want to caretake you, and I am going to instead let you have your experience without trying to control or comfort you.”
  • “I notice I want to contextualize and explain the judgment I wrote about you. Instead, I am going to surrender to the discomfort arising and trust that we have capacity to be with both our light and dark parts.”

I consent to SELF-SOVEREIGNTY as defined herein.


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